People say nice guys don’t win, I believe them. We live in a society where people are nice to others, they think they’ll get what they want. You’ve done something yourself and expect reciprocity in return. You don’t tell others what you think because you’re scared of hurting their feelings. This exemplifies why the nice guy doesn’t win.
Expects Other To Know What He Wants
Have you been in a situation where you wanted to say something, but held back? You know you deserved the promotion at work, but you refused to say something. You meet a nice girl, but you’re too afraid to ask for her number. These are characteristics nice guys share. They are ashamed asking for what they want, taking away from others. Nice guys expect others to know what they want. This results in not taking charge and wondering why you aren’t living the life you want.
Most nice guys are passive aggressive. They reason if they ask for what they wish, someone else will judge them. He lacks the willpower of what it takes to be a strong alpha male. The nice guy is the person who asks his girlfriend where she wants to go to dinner. He wonders why the relationship is failing.
It’s during this he displays his feminine qualities. He becomes the guy who’s scared of making his girlfriend upset. The nice guy says, “If only women knew how nice I was.” Do you suppose you will ever get a date if you don’t ask a woman out?
The nice guy goes through life without ever getting what he wants. He’s too much a bitch to ask for it. The nice guy isn’t willing to put himself on the line. Yes, it might mean rejection, even humiliation. What happens if it works out and you get what you want? Don’t let your fears hold you back from getting what you want in life.
When you go into a restaurant and the food they serve you is terrible, do you continue to eat it? No, you ask the waiter or waitress for something new. You can go your entire life without living.
Worried About What People Think Of Him
The typical nice guy lives his life based on what other people regard of him. He doesn’t go to the college he wants. The nice guy has a job he hates. He does this so others admire him. He doesn’t realize how much pain he’s causing himself. The nice guy will live an unfulfilled life.
Do you suppose everyone in this world will admire you? If you do, you’re an idiot. You will not please everyone you meet. The more success you receive, the more people hate you. Why not please yourself?
Are you too scared of what your parents and friends will think? Do they run your life? It’s time you stand your ground. You learn what’s best for you. Don’t tell me you don’t, you’re lying. You notice what you’re passionate about. Just because your dad is a doctor or lawyer doesn’t mean you have to be one. If you care what your friends think, you’ll never get ahead.
On a side note, if you’re still friends with people from your high school class, it’s time to get new ones. This shows you aren’t growing as a person. When you develop a new mindset and become the best version of yourself, you won’t want to hang around the same people.
The nice guy will let others tell him what to drive. He’ll wear what his girlfriend thinks is suitable. The epiphany of the guy who plays it safe. He’s the person who never wants to get into a fight. I’m not saying you need to get into a fight, but you need to stand ground sometimes. The person will garner respect for you.
Become the person you were meant to be. Get away from where you live. Go on adventures and make new friends. If you get too complacent in your everyday life, this spells the end. Most people die at twenty but aren’t buried until they’re seventy-five.
Fear Dictates His Life
A nice guy won’t chase after his dreams. He lets his fears get in the way. Even if he knows what he wants, he doesn’t go after his desires.
You recognize the feeling you get when you’re fearful or intimidated by someone. You’re out somewhere and you see a smokeshow girl, but you’re too scared to approach her. The nice guy lives his entire life by this philosophy. He’s scared of what she might think of him. It’d break through the paradigm that he’s perfect.
We live in a world where two imperfect people meet. The nice guy accepts he has to be perfect for others to appreciate him. He’s the person who says, “yes,” to everything.
He’ll never stop and ask what’s best for him. The nice guy doesn’t put his foot in the ground and say, “no.” Even though he wants to say, “no,” he doesn’t. He’ll see a job he wants but is too scared it won’t work out. He loves to be comfortable, never taking risks. Nice guys won’t try something new. He’ll express the negative instead of positive in every situation. He considers people will find out who he is, and won’t approve of him.
The nice guy wishes to move somewhere new, drive a different car, or go on a different adventure. He lets the voice in his head talk him out of his dreams. He’s the person who’s alright with getting second place. As long as someone wins, he’s fine. If you’re not first, you’re last. Do you remember the second person who flew an airplane across the ocean? No one gives a shit about second place.
In life, do what pleases you. You know what makes you happy. Ask that girl out. Move to a different country. Quit your job and start your own business. Most of the surrounding people will try to talk you out of it, trust your own intuition.
The Jack Of All Trades
The nice guy will never ask for help. By him asking for help, other’s will look below him. He’s scared others will assume different of him. Let’s be honest, you can’t do everything yourself. They’re tasks out there you need to hire or outsource. Elon Musk can wash his car, but his time is better spent elsewhere. One can call this the superhero syndrome.
Why re-invent the wheel when someone has done it for you? You want to get better at picking up women, find someone’s who’s an expert. Want to find a good workout program? Find someone who has the ideal body you want. Success leaves clues.
Let’s says you wish to have a better dress style? Why not view someone you admire, reach out to him for advice. This is better than you trying to learn everything on your own. You can condense someone’s years of learning into a few hours for yourself.
It’s okay to ask for help. You’re not expected to understand and do everything on your own. Man up and ask for advice. Put your ego aside and do what needs to be done. If you do everything on your own, you will never get ahead. Your energy will be spread thin and you won’t become a master.
Acts Nice All The Time
Nice guys have an enigma that they’re entitled. If they are nice to others, the person will be kind back. Are you kidding me? It’s a dog eat dog world. Not everyone will be your friend. You will make enemies along the way. There will be cases when you have to tell someone how it is. You’ll look them square in the eye. You might become better friends after this instance. Never try to comfort others. The world is sensitive because we give first place trophies to everyone. If the kid sucks, tell him and make him work harder. What is he going to be when he grows older?
Why do girls love assholes? Because they aren’t a pushover. I’m not saying to be mean to your girl, she deserves the utmost respect. I’m saying you have to ask for what you want in the relationship. If she’s doing something you don’t prefer, tell her.
Don’t suppress your feelings. You’re not supposed to cater for her every need. Sometimes you need to take a weekend with the guys. She may not care for when you say no or get mad, but she’ll love you more for it. Your girl will understand you won’t let her get her way with everything. Stand your guard and say what you believe.
Nice guys don’t want to step on anyone’s toes.
Treat everyone with kindness and you’ll get it back. That’s not how it works. You must fight for what you want. Yes, it might piss off someone. But are you going to care for them on your deathbed?
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